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  • Steeve@lemmy.catoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml*Permanently Deleted*
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    1 year ago

    I disagree, that’s not how OP’s post and comments read to me, especially because “disengage because nobody wants to hear from me” was mentioned as their solution after they claimed they only participate in 10% of conversations. But like I said, it doesn’t matter. OP can choose to disregard my comment if it doesn’t apply, I’m just a stranger on the internet.

    I think you’re taking it for granted that if someone knew about the problem and tried hard enough, they’d be able to stop

    Yeah, absolutely nothing in my comment even alluded to this, I even specifically said to take advice from others in this thread. Where on earth did you get this from? This is such a ridiculous and disingenuous takeaway from my comment.


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    1 year ago

    I don’t have anything to add as far as advice goes, however based on your responses and initial post it sounds like you aren’t being completely honest with us or yourself. “I only participate 10% of the time”, “I highly value other people’s input/don’t interrupt people”, “I just have to accept that people don’t value my opinion”. If you’ve been receiving this feedback openly your entire life by various sources I’m very much inclined to believe it has merit.

    You seem to be looking for confirmation bias here that you’ve done nothing wrong and it’s the people around you giving unfair criticism, just know that this confirmation bias is fleeting. We’re strangers on the internet, we don’t actually care how insufferable you are or aren’t IRL, because as soon as we’ve left our comments we can close this post and essentially forget you exist. It is definitely worth listening to the people around you if you want to maintain those relationships, especially if it’s affecting your career.

    The best advice I can give you is to take this criticism seriously and follow the advice of other users who have experienced similar personality traits.