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Wow, that’s pretty dire. I have tried dating apps and didn’t really ever find much luck in them and started looking in places where dating isn’t the goal instead like hobbies or common community spaces and slowly building relationships that way.

There’s nothing in their profiles about their interests?

A good solution here is to ask open ended questions instead of ones with a yes or no etc answer and to talk about their interests.

Yes, thankfully my therapist doesn’t say that but she does seem to say it’s all on me to deal with and change since I can’t change them, which is fair.

Thankfully I have a few folks helping me escape them, but it’s a slow process.

Biological ‘family’.

Okidoke, hope you have a pleasant life and you never get upset about the way folks talk to you about anything or refer to you.

Wow, the award for quickest turnaround for proving the point goes to…

It always confuses me when people say ‘offend’ people, because usually it is not offense they feel etc.

Well, that’s not a very fair way of treating/thinking of people, some people are going to be hurt or upset by certain things and it’s better to understand that we all have emotions and they are not pointless just because you see no value in them i.e. ‘illogical’. It’s better to work together and find ways of communicating that aren’t genuinely hurtful ioo.

So like, just because you ‘studied’ linguistics you think that makes you an expert on how language should always be used or that people should not feel a certain way about language just because you say so?

That’s not exactly a compelling argument.

Language is always going to carry certain meanings for some folks and we do a disservice to people by ignoring that, we all have our own personal lexicons/semantic meanings to a degree and that will likely never change, we do best by understanding this and working together to understand and accept when certain language can be hurtful and thus find ways of talking that do work for each other.

I feel that’s a better way of being than talking down to someone like you just did and telling them that how they feel about it doesn’t matter and they should just get with the program, which is never going to work.

Okay, but not everybody is going to be comfortable with it and so are you saying you would not change your speech for them?

Also which country?

A trans femme is someone who tries to make themselves look more ‘femme’ often through taking estrogen etc, it can refer to trans women as well but also refers to those who don’t completely identify or at all as a woman, see nonbinary folks for example. It’s kind of a catch all term.

Who said anything bout language policing? I was merely saying for myself. I think passing is a pointless binary concept and not even all cis women ‘pass’. So I’m not all that interested in passing 100%, just being happy to be me.

In what context(s)?

A lot of trans femmes myself included cannot see ‘guys’ as gender neutral no matter how hard we try and so do not like it.

https://thirdroom.io/

Doesn’t sound great either. However, fair enough.

There wasn’t anything to do but theme parks really which gets pretty boring pretty quickly.

Florida

Also, ex-4channers and fascists we have found don’t necessrily give up the language or ideas from it once they have left, no matter how ‘smart’ they were.

Both people online and offline we have met that were fash in some way have a certain energy and way of speaking to them that we find disgusting and offputting a lot of the time.

If you look at our comments we made it pretty clear that all of fedi is like that, including lemmy.

This is exactly what we mean, thanks for explaining better than we could/did!