I don’t think it’s wrong to recreate a beloved community, and I think it makes sense to also populate it with content. I just think that posting a copy of Reddit is a problem, and automated posts too often are also not good. At that point you’re trying to force the community into existence rather than having it be organic. I think it’s okay to boost the community a bit, but not to try to make Lemmy the new Reddit.

I will say that Lemmy in general seems very Reddit-like, which is what causes people to try to make Lemmy the new Reddit, so I’m not surprised that people are just trying to migrate subreddits to communities here. I think Lemmy needs a bit more of an identity to avoid that.

Yeah. Lots of communities seemed to have NSFW vs NSFL to distinguish porn from gore, respectively. I agree with that distinction.

I’ve also been curious about it. Enjoying Lemmy and Kbin, but wouldn’t mind the ability to interact on Tildes, if somebody has an invite.

Forgive me, but I’m going to give you a “non-answer”. The reason is that depression is very personal, and you should probably only get advice on your specific situation by a licensed therapist. Even a licensed therapist isn’t good enough for some people, and they’ll need to find the right therapist, and even then they may require medication.

With that out of the way, I’ll tell you that you probably need to forgive yourself a bit more than you currently do. If you’re high strung, rigid, and tend to be harsh with yourself for failure (which only makes depression worse, especially when you end up feeling down while beating yourself up over it), then the only way to break that cycle is to be genuinely forgiving with yourself. What some people have said is pretend it’s not you in the situation, but a friend. What advice would you give that person?

A very smart man I know once told me that we tend to judge others based on their actions and outcomes, and ourselves based on our intentions. That means that if we didn’t mean to hurt somebody then we can be a bit more dismissive than if somebody hurt us but didn’t mean it. That said, it can also cut the other way. If you intended to succeed at something but didn’t, you can beat yourself up over it. Nobody around you would be any the wiser about your shortcomings or failures, but you might be likely to draw attention to it and judge yourself harshly based on your (lack of) results.

I probably wrote this mostly for myself and my situation, but hopefully it helps you a bit. There’s no plan for life. We just all do the best we can with the hand we’re dealt in the situation we happen to be in at the time. Hell, most of people’s success comes down to luck, not hard work. To make things worse, neither success nor money will make you more happy with yourself. They may help, but they won’t do it on their own.

Did they select a language? Mine did the same thing on various instances. I tried a few things at the same time, so I don’t know what finally let me register, but I learned a few things in the process.

For example, the most likely explanation is that the username is already taken. The back end fails silently when that happens, and there’s already a bug open in GitHub. I figured I’d try a shorter password and selecting a language, and that worked.

Hopefully that helps your friends.