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Cake day: June 17th, 2023

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  • Trust your manager and the people who hired you. They picked your for a reason. Sometimes it’s not what you think makes a good employee in this position, but something much more specific to the team or situation you’re in. If in doubt: Ask!

    Many times people who come straight from uni don’t feel productive enough, because they can’t be productive for 8 hours straight. But that’s normal. Staring at the ceiling blankly on occasion is normal too. If you’re doing your best and the matter you’re working with is working well for you, then you’re very likely fine.

    There’s always a bit of impostor syndrome in all of us, but still try to get comfortable and trust your colleagues. Ask for feedback from your superior, if you’re unsure.


  • This decision is all about you.

    I’m an introvert who works with people, I could be a recluse all year and I’d be happy. Without work maybe I’d be a little lonely at times, but there is ways to fix that for me, without relying on neighbours.

    You seem to like having neighbours though, so that’s very different. If that is something that worked well for you in the past, I think that’s an indicator for the more expensive house. It’s a permanent thing, after all, and if you’re rather extroverted or at least need humans around on occasion, then you shouldn’t make yourself unhappy by buying cheap.



  • rawn@feddit.detoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml***
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    9 months ago

    You learn French, they learn English, you meet in the middle. I think that’s probably how that was meant to work. Sounds fair to me.

    You seem to lack the ability to change perspective here: You learn a language and so do they. You just seem to be missing the fact that the other side is doing the exact same thing?

    I never knew there was this much drama about the French language in Canada. Really interesting fact on its own.



  • rawn@feddit.detoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlHow to meet people
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    10 months ago

    Bumble friend search, you don’t have to look romantically. Meetup works too, though not quite as well for me, since not everyone with a common interest wants a new close friend.

    We’re out there and depending on where you are there’s quite a lot of us in your shoes and many also don’t really know how to go about this business.




  • As someone who was born here and moved back home (from the UK) a few years ago: I do absolutely have intense feelings about how and why I came home and what rules and regulations I really value ever since, that were completely meaningless to me before.

    Some more general thoughts: Depending on the level of xenophobia people experienced in their country of origin, they may also feel the need to “give back” to a place they weren’t born to (when really they’re a free gift, cause we don’t have to pay their education) and experience others as ungrateful. These feelings may be stronger if they get the impression that the other party are maybe some kind of “digital nomad” simply looking for the best package deal, regardless of where exactly they go to, as long as it’s good for them.