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Cake day: July 17th, 2023

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  • Guessing you live near a warehouse then. My brother lives in Phoenix and gets everything next day usually. My problem is I’m not near a major hub. Which is fine… I am ok with the shipping taking a week or so… But lately for me it’s taken weeks for anything to even leave the warehouse. Which is absolutely fucking insane




  • To piggy back on what that guy is saying… better put… He’s talking about becoming a regular. I’ve done it at more than a few places throughout the years.

    I haven’t lived in one place for more than 3 years out of the last 25 of my life. Making friends is hard. But one thing I did to help me get out of my funks is to go do something I enjoy. For me it was to find a restaurant I like and go sit at the bar. Don’t need to be there to drink, fyi. Just go get some food and be present. Being on your phone is ok, but you’ll be more approachable if you’re looking up at a TV or something like that, so make it a point to put the phone down every now and again. Often times I found that even if I was on my phone, someone sitting next to me might make a comment about whatever is going on with a game or fight or something that was playing and it would spark a conversation. Doesn’t have to be a long one. Remember, we’re taking baby steps here. And hell … You can fake your way through some of those conversations too. About a fight? “Yea man this is a really tough matchup, who do you think takes the win?” It does help to know at least a little about what’s going on, but it’s not required. Even a simple “I haven’t been following along, what happened?” Can keep it going.

    Anyways, after showing up more than a few times the servers and bartenders notice and will start talking to you. Asking your name and all that stuff. Conversations from there will go where they go. The great thing is that they are working. There’s no pressure to hold an in depth long conversation since they have things to do. It’ll start as small talk and eventually get deeper.

    Again, this is in baby steps. This won’t happen over the course of 2-3 visits. It’ll be more than that. But stay for the meal, get one more drink, then leave. Same will be said about a coffee shop.

    The key to this working is persistence and patience. And that goes for beating depression as a whole. It’s not going to happen over night. It takes work, and it takes time, but eventually you’ll get there… Just like you’ll eventually become a regular at that coffee shop, restaurant, bar, arcade, pool hall, or whatever place you decide to go.

    One foot in front of the other, keep it moving one step at a time, even if those steps are the length of a dime.

    As a final note… Try not to talk down about yourself. It creates a feedback loop that can be hard to break and is self-fulfilling. Positive Mental Attitude… PMA. You’re worth the effort.





  • Because during breaks is the time to either get some energy out or go socialize. A TON of social cues are learned during these breaks. And if they’re getting their dopamine fix from their phones during the breaks, you think that they will be MORE inclined to pay attention in class? The answer is no.

    Like the other guy said, pay attention in school. More is learned in school than just the course work.