Yup, just one of those posts that could of course work in either

checks the community to make sure I’m in programmer humor

Yeah that checks out

I have very strong memories of fast food and going out with my family to restaurants like Applebees and Chilis. Family meals that I remember sitting together and ordering, the crayons at the table, bits and pieces come back.

As an adult, never try to relive those memories. The people are what you’re remembering, not the food or the atmosphere, and even then if you are the food and atmosphere are just gone. Leave the memories in the past, make new ones now. At better places.

Nobody ever fell in love without being a little brave

Just gotta work up to ask. For me, I started by asking her to come to a group outing with me. No, not the sleezy tactic of “Totally going to be a group” then it’s just me, but actually a group outing. My friends knew I liked her and they tried to sit so we’d be next to each other. Couple of weeks I worked up the courage to finally ask her to see a movie with me, and she said yes.

At the end of the day, it’s cliche but the worst that would happen is “No.” If it’s a no, it sucks, but accept it, and move on. It’s done, it’s over. No maybes, no what ifs, just, hey she’s not into you, and rejection is never fun, but it happens to the best of us. If she says yes, then great!

Just remember, number 1 tippy top best advice I can give - relationships and love are not like the movies. They just aren’t. She’s a real person, just like you. She has hobbies, likes, dislikes, and she may be a completely different person than who you have in your head. Don’t just ask out a crush you barely know. Get to know her, the real her, not the one you built up in your head. She’s not going to be your Robin Scherbatsky, or your Leia, Arwen, or <<any woman ever from any romcom>>, she’s not going to be the imaginary girl you imagined in your head and what you are going to do, she’s a real human. I like to ground anyone who has a crush and pull them back down to earth. Crushes are fun, but we romanticize the person into someone they’re not. Make sure you like them, not who you think they are.

If you don’t feel ready to ask her out, like if you don’t know her very well, then trust that feeling, and do what I did, try to find some mutual ground where you can get to know each other a bit more. Group settings are great for this, see how well you get along together. When you’re ready, it’ll still be terrifying, but like the quote says, no one ever fell in love without being a little brave.

Note: I realized I wrote this from my point of view. Swap out the pronouns if they don’t apply.

When people think men look “cool” smoking in those (which honestly, who thinks that anymore), they never think of the following 40 years. When I think of smoking now it isn’t the movies, it’s grandma and grandpa hacking and coughing, their sickly yellow walls of their house permanently stained with nicotine, and low gravely voices. Maybe you think you look cool for 5 years or so, and then it’s all downhill

Correct, that is another way of putting what I said.

If the choice is:

• Have a stable job, continue paying my bills on time, enjoy the coworkers I do enjoy, continue on with my life -or-
• Have a few seconds of glib satisfaction after yelling at a coworker

I mean, yeah, I’m gonna just keep my lunch at my desk.

"7z-wasm": "^1.0.2",

Ah, knew we were looking at a wrapper of my faithful companion here

It’s definitely a bad trait. However, I’m envious of how peaceful and happy the ignorant are.

Because that’s not how the corporate world works. You want to freak out and yell at them? Go ahead. Maybe they don’t eat someone else’s food for a week. Meanwhile you’ll be hunting for a new job. You threaten another employee? You’ll be lucky to be employed at the end of the day.

Life is a series of tradeoffs. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Tim may steal food, but that doesn’t mean it’s throwing off the status quo. You yell at Tim, you’re upsetting the status quo. So go ahead, and have fun with your pink slip. Hope it was worth it.

Or you can keep your lunch at your desk.

You read about the teenager who fell in love with danaerys Targaryen who convinced him to join her, so he killed himself? Yeah, the public was not ready for AI

Is it dead? People are leaving but I don’t think it’s dead… Yet

Wow this question is all over the place. I want to call out the privacy bit though. The fediverse is NOT private. You are anonymous, and really pseudo anonymous. Everything you post here is shared with anyone listening though. There are guidelines for how to implement the protocol, but they are not rules. Things like deletes do not have to be honored. Any gov agency can spin up an instance and listen.

We can act like we’re anonymous, but unless your hosting your own somewhere far off with no logs and zero way to trace it back to you, you’re still open. Open web means open, it’s what we want. The open web means no single entity can shut down the whole of the fediverse. The flip side is that you are also out there in the open.

Write who you are imagining, who you think the person is - don’t cater to anyone. Not right, not left, you are the author, write who you think it should be.

Like any vice honestly. It can be fun and enjoyable. Too much and then you need to get some help and it will affect you. Forcing it out of your life, however, is not actually dealing with your problems but rather just hiding from them. Finding the balance is the goal.

A true recovered alcoholic isn’t someone who demands his friends stop drinking when they are around him. That’s someone who is trying to hide from it. A true recovered alcoholic is someone who can see their friends enjoy a drink and say “no thanks” when asked.

This was a lyft in Vegas a couple years back. Taking an autonomous one was more expensive, but I chose it for novelty. That was already on top of Lyft/Uber being more than taxis.

In my experience taxis now are cheaper than uber/lyft. Not autonomous, but coming home from the airport the trains weren’t running for maintenance or something, and an uber was 160 dollars. No joking, that’s how much - base. Taxi was about 50.

“so it’s a taxi”. Basically all it was, except I surprisingly trusted taxi drivers more. For the cost, I’d rather just take mass transit

Hey I used to live in Des Moines! I agree with you. Iowans treat Des Moines like a city. “I have to go into the city today”. No you don’t. You have to go into town. Des Moines is a big town, it’s not a city.

They refuse to believe they’re a city, any time they’re faced with acknowledging they might be becoming a city they do something regressive to it to try to prevent it. Built out not up. Kill all mass transit ideas. Anything diverse happening? Let’s keep that in check. They are a city of 300k that want to run it like a small town. Then the politics, just yuck the people who run it.

There were some fun places, the east side had some good bars, the keg stand in WDM was my stomping ground for a while, but so many people are just happy to have their strip malls and chain restaurants. Oh my god we got a Texas Roadhouse, I remember it made the news when Des Moines got one. God forbid anyone try an actual good local place.

Depending what you want to dive into I can definitely tell you more good and bad

Yes that happened, and yes we could tell the difference. Drunk people were pretty obvious. As long as they didn’t throw up I was fine with them, because again the $7/hour employee would have to clean it up

This was 15 years ago now so memories are fuzzy. Weirdest things I saw? How sad people’s lives could be. The saddest one was a woman came through with her child at 11:30pm, and she was clearly heavily buzzed if not full on drunk. Yelling at her kid who was obviously tired and wanted a happy meal. No kids seat or even wearing a seatbelt. One of the few times I called the police.

As for fun things? All of those jokes and pranks you see online or think will be really funny? I saw them dozens of times. They were never original, they were never funny, everyone thought they were the funniest person for asking for a whopper at a McDonald’s. Gets to the point you know just to type in big mac, tell them the price, and have them move forward. I was making $7/hr. Whoa look we’re having fun at the expense of the minimum wage employee who’ll be fired on the spot if they say anything negative. The ice cream prank? Seen it. Hamburger no meat no bun no condiments? Seen it. We’re not neutral faced because we’re annoyed at you, we were all tired of hearing the same boring jokes. It was all lame dad energy, but coming from teenagers.

Exactly this. If you think about it, regardless of if the religious reason was real or not, people did not know how to handle food safely, and pork is one of the worst when it comes to bacteria growth. My SO is a food scientist and they said it well, people probably just got sick from pork a lot more than other meats. So obviously god was saying not to eat it.

3000ish years later we have things like thermometers and know what bacteria are and how they grow. So I don’t know if the rules came down today if it would say “don’t eat pork” or if it’d be “verify your pork has been handled safely and cooked thoroughly”