We need to communicate our sexual identity clearly at a high level because we all need to work out with each other who can date or fuck who.

We don’t have as much practical reason to know each other’s specific experience with autism right away. And if you are close to someone and need to understand their autism at a lower level, their personal situation is more complicated than being one of five or six types.

And if you do need to understand someone’s sexuality at a low level, it could also be more complicated and individualized than just being one letter. But knowing that one letter with sexuality helps as a start.

My computer is a plex server, a homeassistant server, it runs cron jobs, there’s a web server with some automation and browsing utilities I use throughout the day. It’s on 24/7, doesn’t sleep.

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Oh I see, it’s like bankruptcy.

Is there a magical barrier that keeps men who don’t say they’re trans from entering women’s bathrooms?

Probably right, but at least my watch history is all attached to a throwaway email address I use for it.

It’s largely the same because we started out with mostly enthusiasts doing it in semi hidden places. Then it was mainstreamed and became too easy for casuals to do out in the open. So laws and enforcement caught up and now it’s most effective again if you know your way around, which most casuals won’t if they can afford a few streaming services.

One big change is no longer having to burn any media, you download something then it’s on plex and you can watch it instantly.

If I could bring anything back from the 90s it would be a big selection of games, movies, tv, music, and books that I actually care enough to consume. There’s hardly anything worth downloading anymore.

Okay but the Bill of Rights was added to the Constitution in 1791.

I’d ask to switch with you, except I know very well that anyone’s life can be much more complicated than it seems on the surface, and happiness does not automatically come from any of that. Therapy doesn’t help everyone be happier, but it’s something worth trying or trying again.

The world does suck right now. All the more reason to find something like a cat or some other thing that makes you happy to help ignore all the bullshit.

Your cat had a good life and loved you and then died. There doesn’t have to be a point, there’s more good than suffering.

Yeah, it is rough, but keep in mind dating is hard for most people so it’s less of a you problem than your brain want to make it feel like.

And don’t think of it as being a “top” person or not. It’s healthier and more accurate to think of it as compatibility. There’s not a linear scale of people. When someone’s interested in you (for the right reason) it’s because you work together as people, not because you’re the best person they can get and vice versa.

You’re not misogynistic, but watch out for the people who try to portray dating as more adversarial than it is so they can profit from amplifying our insecurities.

There are so many benign reasons you can reject someone.

Maybe you just deleted the app because you’re done with trying for now.

Maybe you like someone but move on because things just got serious someone else you found first.

Maybe you like someone but there’s some dealbreaker like distance or having kids or something else random they have a bias about.

Maybe you reject someone without thinking there’s anything wrong with them, you just don’t feel compatible.

And yeah some people will reject you because you’re not rich or your looks aren’t perfect, that happens too, but only a small percentage of people are rich or look perfect, you just have to make peace with not being that. Just about everyone else is in the same boat.

Don’t let incel types cause you to shape your impression of why you’re being rejected and turn it into a reason to hate a whole gender. Some of them have shitty standards, sure, but don’t turn it into a rule about them. That leads to a downward spiral.

No, it was just a dumb hoax.

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Baseball is unwatchable to me anymore because of ads the announcers read during innings.

Everyone hates advertising, but it’s an unavoidable part of life and it’s never bothered me when there’s a 3 minute commercial break. I’ll mute it until the show comes back on and look at my phone or get up or something. Or I’ll fast forward if I have a buffer.

But baseball TV and radio announcers reading frequent quick ads between pitches or between at bats can’t be skipped/muted and it’s like fingernails on a blackboard for me. After 30+ years watching baseball, I’m essentially done with it now.

Everyone complains about ads but I seem to be the only one who thinks real TV with its easily skippable commercials is the least bad option. Streaming services aren’t going to let us control the video stream the way DVRs do.

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