• amaze@sh.itjust.works
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    1 year ago

    I have periodontal disease so I feel this. I actually extra feel this, because I have perio because my parents never took care of me as a kid, and then in my adulthood while I spend tons of money for maintenance and have lots of pain they try to gaslight me into thinking they didn’t do anything wrong and try to guilt trip me into reestablishing contact with them. Fuck that lol.

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      1 year ago

      I’m so sorry to hear what you’re dealing with. I think the most important thing we can try to take from the pains, is to try treating others better than we were treated, despite how difficult it might be.

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        1 year ago

        I’m not exactly sure what you mean. I try to treat other people well as much as I can. Doesn’t mean I’m going to get back into contact with abusive and negletful parents that did serious long term damage and pain to me with lifetime consequences that I now have no say over.

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          1 year ago

          Oh, that’s not what I meant. I was just trying to say us being positive can hopefully help others do the same.

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            1 year ago

            Not to disagree with your general philosophy, but in this particular case amaze’s parents are already being positive because they don’t accept blame and want more contact. They won’t start treating their child better after all these years; amaze would just stress themselves out. There’s got to be some limit to how much abuse they should be expected to endure.