My father, who convinced me (16 m) at the time to move in with him instead of my mother when they moved. All 3 of the other siblings stayed with my mother. He then kicked me out the week I turned 18, a week into my senior year. Since then he stays in touch only to speak with his grandchildren (now going on 4 kids). I have never been anything but opportunistic and positive in our interactions. Regardless he still acts like I am a burden to talk too. Am now 37, and finally getting to the point I should accept it. I’m the complete opposite with my own children and can’t comprehend how someone could treat their child like this. How do I cope? It eats at me. I will answer any questions in depth if it will help in understanding the situation.

  • silly goose meekah@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    The thing is I’m not just distant, I’m full on no contact with her. And sometimes I think that maybe my reaction is a bit too harsh. But I think you’re right, I need to get myself in good position/mental state before I should try to reestablish contact. I can’t handle her problems if I don’t have my own in check.

    Thanks for sharing.